Tips on how to handle a Toxic Relationship

Relationships often start  perfectly, but over time it changes and becomes very bad that it affects the individuals involve negatively.

Here are 3 strategic approaches that will help you build healthy and long - lasting relationships;

             * Be self - discipline

Be discipline, take charge of your own attitude and behavior and never lose control of yourself.  Handle situation with wisdom and stop overreacting over minor issues.

               * Set limits

It is vital to know your limits in your relationship as it helps to protect your sense of personal identity and guard you from being influenced by the demands of others, thereby creating mutual respect,understanding and trust among each other. This clear assertion of how  you want to be treated will enable you and your partner feel comfortable as well as developing positive self - esteem.

             * Be mindful of your responses

Instead of increasing the fire, try to quench it. Season your words with salt and control your responses in order not to increase the toxicity in your relationship.

Toxic Relationship

Gone are the days when good people meet and fall in love with each other. Today,the reverse is the case as good people are victims of bad or toxic relationships. No one deserves to be in any toxic relationship because one bad relationship could make you not to fall in love again. You deserve better.

17 POSSIBLE SIGNS OF A TOXIC                                      RELATIONSHIP

 Most times,it's very obvious that you are in a toxic relationship but you tend to ignore the signs maybe because you are not certain. It's vital to observe the following in your relationship to determine if it's toxic or not;

* No sense of creativity

 * The feeling of not being good enough for                   each other

 * Inability to accept and take responsibility               for each others' actions

 * Consistent lying habit from your partner

 *  Blaming your partner for your life not                    being as satisfying as you'd wish
                         it to be
  * Out of sight,out of mind mentality

 * Inability to confide in your spouse

 * Lack of attention from your partner

  * No sense of adequate relationship                                   security
 * When your partner is ashamed of you

  * The feeling of being lonely even when                             you are together

 * Absence of affection from your spouse

  * No compromise from your partner

  * Trial and error - No understanding of                       what you really want

 * Consistent misunderstandings between                      you and your spouse

 * Insincerity and cheating from your                                         partner
 * Abuses from your spouse.

Stupid in Love

Sarah and Jack had an awesome relationship, it was indeed a perfect one and desire of all and sundry. Both were students in the same institution but different faculty and they were living together like couple. Later. She realized that she contributes more into the relationship especially, the financial aspect but she never cared because she was in love. Along the way,other young men asked her for a relationship, some marriage but she bluntly refused because she was in love. Also,her love for Jack made her to accept any decision made by Jack.

One day,everything changed. It all started when Jack asked Sarah to date Mr. Frank, who a great businessman for just the monetary benefit and she blindly agreed,could this be love?. Days passed. Months came and gone. They graduated together, served in the same school. It was a perfect picture. Everyone were expectant of their marriage after service. It happened on a Friday morning, a day Sarah might not forget in a hurry. Jack ended their six years relationship because he doesn't know what he feels for Sarah all this while. Sarah was devastated,she almost killed herself because she was stupid in love but God helped her to live to tell her story.

 

What a waste of time and efforts.  Today, most persons find themselves entangled in such situations. Wisdom is to know when to know when someone is barely using you and to flee. Be ye male or female when someone is merely using you to serve a purpose, certainly, you will know. The issue is that people tend to turn a blind eye to certain reality of life. Living with a man that is not married to you yet is wrong. Never be stupid in love, learn from Sarah. Always remember that love looks not with the eyes but with the mind.