The Experience

                The Jungle Life

(A True Tale of an Ogigi Family in Elelenwo Port Harcourt, Rivers State Nigeria).

 

                  *Episode One*

                The Experience 

As early as six o'clock in the morning, breakfast is served with pounded yam, fufu and or bake garri with soup. Each person with their bowl, aggressively eating without minding another as if they had escaped death. 

Nne is the oldest ( grandmother) of the Ogigi family. She's dark in complexion,slim with  an average height, her face is full with wrinkle so crumple as she barely smiles. Her voice is thunderstorm, if possible, it can wake the dead. She's energetic but troublesome and never accept the fact that she's aged. She's friendly with younger ladies whose hobby is gossiping.

Everyone live together as an extended family with extended problems. The early morning chaos, the drama, beatings, quarrels and fightings are familiar songs to their neighbors.

" Nora don't stand there to look foolishly go and get ready for school", Jennifer screamed.

"This is the Ogigi family. It has always been this way, said Alice." I was perplexed and confused instantly.

"What? I said indignantly. I can't live here, this is absurd. "

Alice our house assistant and my aunt Rose have adapted to the system already. I just graduated from college, hoping to get a break and to rest a little at my aunt's house but this seems to be mission impossible.

" How am I suppose to cope with all these mess" I exclaim as I wandered to myself with vexation. 

Then again, it occurred to me that at some point, I don't need to let my brain gets too  comfortable in my everyday surrounding. I need to make it uncomfortable by spending time in another location among different people that operates differently than me.

To me, it's a Jungle with different ideologies. Although, living with the Ogigi in the same compound is like a constant nightmares. It was an excruciating dilemma, until I realized that the ability to make quick decisions is an important skill. Everything became clear to me. In this Jungle, there's new inspiration, ideas, culture, insight and motivation. It was this drive that instigated me to write this story.

Everything happening in the Ogigi family visualize reality. It's so real each day that it looks like am viewing a reality show.  However, this Jungle has fed me creatively, socially, morally,, spiritually and literally. Am able to learn from their wrongs just as you soon would my wonderful reader.

............... Stay safe. Episode two on Friday!!!!

8 Important Quotes on Life

 Life is not as merciful as we are. Life sometimes hits us so hard with one challenge after another, you feel like crying - you even cry deeply without knowing and you want to give up on life.

That's not the right choice. You're not the only one going through it, I am as well but it can only get better when we are courageous and determined.

Here's 8 life quotes to enable you strive harder to attain success in life and to truly redefined your life - goals.

1.  If you view this world with a reality lens you will see that no one is your best friend -  Erasmus

2.  The  only person you are destined to become is the person you decided to be - Waldo Emerson

3.  Struggle to attain success now, old age weakens the bone - Erasmus

4.  It's natural for people to talk, yours is to give them headlines for them to broadcast you for more success - Erasmus

5.  Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday - Dale Carnegie

6.  You don't need to be better than anyone else, you just need to be better than you used to be - Wayne Dyer

7.  Never allow anyone to define you, define yourself - Erasmus

8. It's better to be grateful than to end up a great fool - David Ibiyeomie

The year has just began you can be the best and better version of yourself; it's called "determination". So, despite all the rough days and bad times you've been through in life, never lose hope nor give up on life. Be grateful to God everyday because you're someone else's prayer point.  

Bitter truth

 

Having an encounter with him remains an interesting aspect of my life. I quickly recalled early 2020, when Uche told me the bitter truth which the video below confirm it all.

Got glued to this video, it's educative enjoy and learn as well.

Procastination a Killer

 Time waits for no one, it goes without turning back. Procastination is a great killer, a destroyer of destinies. It kills your ideas and potentials.

This is why Arthur Ashe advise you to 

" Start where you are

  Use what you have

Do what you can "

So, if you want to become a great vessel of honour, eliminate every excuses for not taking the needed and immediate action. Be focus and think positively always, let go of negativity and start right where you are now. 

Remember, do not procastinate instead emulate the I must do it now attitude.

Love, Relationships and Pains.

 Love is a mere word in the hearts of many.  We kill that which we love and cherish. No one wants to be close to us because it's a mere nothing. So many people have lost hope in true love because it doesn't exist. Some experiences are hurtful and unforgettable than the pleasure that came with it.

Along the path of love, so many people lost it all. To some, their lives, while others, their time, investments, opportunities, happiness and shattered hearts. Gone are the days when good people meet and fall in love with each other. Today, the reverse is the case. Most  innocent and naive people meets and get entangled with the wrong people. As a result of this bitter experiences, they tends not to love again. While some people  hurts others in order to vent their anger.

To many, the dose of sorrow has not allowed them to inhale fresh air. If you don't love him / her why pretend to. Have you really asked yourself few questions such as ;

* Why the struggle for security when you are not sure of any commitment. 

*Do hurt people actually hurts people?

* Have you thought of the consequences of your actions?

* If am the one hurt, how would I feel?

* Can I ever trust anyone to love again?

Two types of Relationships

There are two types of relationships in life;

1. Those that inspire us to give our best and those that destroy us.

2. Those that give us peace and those that take it away.

I don't know why and how we choose wrongly most of the time. Why do people choose the type of love that tears them apart? However, society and it's stereotype push people toward that chaos. Although, it teaches us that pain is fun, meanwhile it isn't. This is because pain is preserve, it's exciting yet painful.

We have to learn to love again because it's our duty as humans but if you don't love someone let them be, don't play smart, it kills emotionally, psychologically and physically in the end.

Successful Lifestyle

 Individually, we have different definitions of success. To me, ' success is the attainment of realistic laid down goals'. It could also mean learning from failure through the application of contrivance ( use of skill ) to succeed.

Successful people are goal oriented people. Once they are determined to accomplishing success, nothing can stop them. Despite the storm, they always succeeds.

Successful people are not the ' knowing people ' but the 'learning people '. The reason been that 'knowing people'  are always stock in their outdated and moribund knowledge towards success. While the' learning people' would not loss touch of current successful trends as well as being motivated or relent from learning from successful people.

     THE SUCCESSFUL LIFESTYLE

       Successful lifestyle demands that;

* If you want to attain success, never have a negative mentality or stay around negative people. Emulate other successful people's positive strategies. This is because keeping negative and failure mindset people around you might over time influence you or change your ideology towards success. 

*Successful people only focus on positivity - be optimistic.

*Success people are not lazy. They are zealous and productive individuals. Ever determined to pursue and achieve success.

*If you want to be successful, be ready and avoid  too much sleep. This is because sleepy people are not leaders.  Remember that preparation meets opportunity for success to be attained. So, when you sleep too much how can you prepare yourself for success. Be guided, set roles for yourself.

*Living a successful lifestyle doesn't mean you won't face challenges, but your ability to overcome it without regrets makes the difference.

Believe in yourself.....it can only get better.

Spiral of Silence

 She's always on point, most of her peers are envious of her. Everyday, she goes to Dubai, on some occasion, she's in France but not alone always with him. He is someone's joy, pride and everything but he belongs to her.

Why am I suffering so much while Ella has it all. Maybe I have been cursed for nothing, so unlucky lamented Sarah.

If only Sarah and  others knew the in- depth analysis of Ella's pains and agonies behind her shining face and glittering white tooth. If only they  she knew that she has stolen someone's joy yet she's not joyous. If only they knew how Ella is envious of them. She has sold her freedom and dignity to him, he own her completely. Such is life. She has never broken silence so one knew what she's going through.

Today, people are envious of others without knowing their source of income, their personal life style, relationships, as well as knew the challenges and pains they go through unspoken. Why the low self-esteem? 

Low self-esteem can discourage you from attaining success. This makes you wallow in silence and your creative ideas ignored intrinsically.  No need for spiral of Silence be free to express yourself even when you are not on track, be confident and bold.

HOW TO OVERCOME SPIRAL OF SILENCE

In order to overcome low self-esteem and spiral of silence; 

* Place more value on you life. 

* Determine to do something great because    you are a great personality with great and brighter potential hidden within you that you need to explore. 

*Love yourself before you can love someone     else 

* Envy no one rather than yourself and be contended with what you have.

* Have a positive thinking mentality, avoid negative thoughts.

* Choose your friends don't let friends chose you to astray.

* Sometimes, most things  are not necessarily good for you, be conscious.

* Don't allow active voices to put you in silence, be brave and of good courage.